Breaking The Bonds One By One
Sometimes I come across cases of single, handsome men with money, cars, homes who come to see me, unfortunately me not being gay is a non- starter but for some weird reason I appear to be the last resort for many.
So let’s look at being a man in today’s society, many heroes are simply too super
Take your superman’s, ironman’s and Spiderman’s under all the spandex, polished metal and witty quips we have a sorry bunch of male archetypes all orphaned all lost all alone looking for salvation by saving others the issue is that your average chap simply can’t relate especially after puberty its great being an 8 year old and jumping out of 2nd floor windows attempting to fly but when you hit your later to mid- teens your heroes tend to change most young men will spend endless hours playing Call Of Duty, GTA or Assassins Creed but these are cartoon characters and not readily or easy to aspire to.
However, Bond, James Bond is an archetype that most can cling to he is only 1 step away from your average man
Give me an average man get him to the gym give him a few Ju Jitsu and boxing classes, some financial literacy and if he gets lucky he gets the trappings the cars the loose women the flash aftershaves and accessories but under all the glamour and glitz we have a little boy who is suffering from trauma ..trauma of life ..Life is traumatic in itself so we look at the Bourne Identity, Mission Impossible and James to give us not only some respite but an opportunity to aspire to however there is a crux, a heavy price to pay.
James Bond is an archetype that most can cling to he is only 1 step away from your average man
James Bond,is the iconic spy, who is no stranger to trauma let’s call these trauma bonds bonds—deep emotional attachments formed through cycles of manipulation, danger, and intermittent reinforcement. His life is a constant mix of high-stakes action, betrayal, and fleeting moments of connection with beautiful glamour women, making it difficult for him to detach from unhealthy relationships. Whether it’s a dangerous lover or a deceptive ally, Bond is repeatedly drawn into situations where trust is weaponized, creating confusion and dependency.
Over time, this cycle erodes even the strongest agent’s sense of self, leading to guilt, emotional numbness, and an inability to walk away—even when he recognizes the harm. Breaking free from a trauma bond, even for 007, requires sharp awareness, unwavering boundaries, and a mission impossible for self-empowerment.
To truly escape, Bond must embrace his own agency, prioritize self-care over reckless heroics, and seek support—perhaps from Moneypenny or a wise mentor. Through self-reflection, discipline, and the willingness to unlearn past conditioning, even the world’s greatest spy can reclaim his independence and move toward a healthier, more fulfilling future.
Please check out the Blog Breaking Trauma Bonds under Scripts.
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